7 reasons you should not marry a Soldier Man,You will agree with number 7.

 

In our previous post, we discussed  10 reasons you should not marry a male soldier/officer, Now we are looking at reasons you should  marry marry a soldier man.

1.      Risky: The job of a military man come with many risk especially those in combat unit, position, some will lose their body parts, some will not lose anything while some will pay the ultimate sacrifice. And when they die , the family is worst hit, after final respect , that’s all, get compensated if any at all, then you are on your own to navigate the stormy walk of life.

It’s all over the previous and current headline, two lover birds bond fatally crashed months to their marriage, as the husband a soldier man die in line of duty, a soldier die just months of enlisting, a soldier dies after his wife just delivered a baby, and so many pitiable stories like that have occurred too much, you must have heard of them, in today’s hostile environment, military personnel today have become target of non-state actors who sworn to avenge the misdeed of the previous or current administration against, and it’s the soldier life that pay for it.

 

Most times you don’t know when tragedy struck and it happen so quick and fast you aren’t expecting it what if he dies.

2.    Distance relationship :   

    Ladies have this funny idea of them looking for a man who give them attention all the time, unfortunately a military man is not in that option, most times he will be deployed to frontier or duty, might be abroad on a peacekeeping mission or course, or another base that might not accommodate a partner. He won’t always have the luxury of speaking to you even if there is technological means, You will have to be alone, nurse your feelings alone, take care of the children alone, its more frightening when he is deployed to hostile fronts, the prayers,fasting you will go through, probably you ask a wife of a retired Seasoned Infantry officer what she went through with her husband . If you can’t cope with long distance relationship, don’t bother marry one!

3.    Location and deployment:

PHOTO: ECOMOG TROOPS

 You are most likely to live in a barracks, and the lifestyle there is quite different from your civilian neighborhood, there are rules which must be kept, it’s even hierarchical in nature, officers accommodation is different from soldiers of other ranks, you don’t just accommodate any kind of person, in your home.

     Many transfer will cause you to change friends, loose friends, change your kids schools several times, and if you have a business or job you will have to adapt to fit in to your husband deployment,

4.    If you can’t be faithful: 

    Don’t marry him , if you know you can’t keep to your words, remember he will be away most times, how do you see to the need of sexual pleasure without defiling your marriage. There is even a myth that Military men do cheat! Due to the fact that the time and distance away from each other, they too find a means to satisfy sexual urge, which cheating may be part of it. 

               African countries with Previous military regime in governmen,some rs have this possessive idea of women, during those regime, military men frolick with women around the base, marry different women all locations they are posted to without the women knowing their marital status,lied and gave birth to babies all around,until the issue of HIV/Aids came up, However to day ,due to good education and exposure , such practice have declined.

Therefore its unfair to belief in such Sterotype, not all military men cheat , There fore do not have that preconceived mindset about them and then plan on being unfaithful if the situation call for it,

There are still men that will stand by the oath of marriage and you also stand by it. So avoid the Stereotype that military men cheats, everybody is not the same, therefore do not try to be unfaithful, don’t break his heart, he is in the military! He has seen enough trouble, don’t add to it.

5.     The Government : 

     If you have doubts about the government he serve, or it’s an oppressive government you hate so much, marrying a soldier  serving such government is not advisable, he is likely to be commanded to do ugly things , and a soldier have no choice, therefore do not bother saying yes to a military man.

6.    Gold digging :  

     Military men are not paid much, but the pay is quite sustainable Marrying a military man especially in Many Third world countries is means to enrich their pockets, if you don’t have anything to bring to the table , don’t marry him, he is not a poverty alleviation centre, he is a soldier and he need a solid support system, especially for the sake of the family, what happens to the children future if you have all been dependent on your husband income , then suddenly he died in course of service?

7.     Rank:

Photo: Nigeria Army ranks

 Don’t marry him because of his rank or military status, life happens! He can be killed, demoted, dismissed, promoted, or court-martialed! Or Retired. What happen then will you stop loving him? He can’t be in the military forever, he will one day transit to civilian hood, if you don’t love him, don’t date him, you are wasting his resources and time, if you are not strong emotionally, don’t marry him, if you cannot be a support system don’t marry him.

 In conclusion , who am I to decide your life partner, the ball is in your court, you know what good for you, and your future, we just wrote this and it is at your own discretion.

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